Contrary to popular belief, we can note that the Bible speaks very positively about sexuality. The apostle Paul, for example, encourages married couples not to deprive themselves of sex.
After reading all the biblical texts, it is clear that sex is good and it is a gift from God to human beings: God's gift to the senses, for intimacy and relational for procreation.
But it is so fulfilling and exercised in respect of others, sexuality is called to live in a specific context. As part
to sex, God said marriage and public engagement for the duration of the life of a man and a woman who decide to give themselves exclusively to one another. In that context, God says that sex is good.
The Apostle Paul tells us:
"Therefore, flee the illegitimate unions. All other sins a man commits does not involve its entire body, but one who engages in debauchery sins against his own body. Or, you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit you have been given by God and who now dwells in you? "
(1 Corinthians ch. 6 v.18-19).
It can therefore be "debauchery" at the sexual level. But what does that mean?
used many times in the New Testament the term refers to any sexuality that is practiced outside of marriage.
Regarding sex outside of marriage, the Bible is very clear: it invites us to abstain. To repeat things differently: sex is good and willed by God, in a precise framework: marriage. Outside this context, the Bible speaks in terms of sin.
Why would it be sex of "debauchery" out of wedlock, as if by magic, would it be good once married?
There is no "magic" here. The difference lies in the social bond, in the long-term commitment in learning self-control and respect for others, ie the real and deep meaning of marriage.
The difference also comes from the very meaning of sex.
Sex is what is most intimate in us. Sleep together creates a bond. This link is positive when the marriage because it is done in a climate of security, trust, commitment and social recognition. This link is negative if it is established outside marriage Because of the absence of one or more of these elements. Sexuality requires emotional security, that is to say the absolute trust in each other, understanding each other and commitment over the long term, because sleeping with the other, it 's give to another, is to give our deepest intimacy. This is not a game or fun.
Want to sleep together, often is only the unconscious expression of our desire to reassure us ourselves or the selfish desire of the body of another. We want to prove something to ourselves, we want to keep the other, we enjoy each other's bodies ... All these things do not proceed from a true love for each other.
True love waits, because he does not want one for themselves. Sexuality is the crown that awaits us after all prepared for marriage, having engaged and shown to one another that we really like.
When God shows us the way - including sexual - it's for our good, we have everything to gain respect its advice. Do not hesitate: ask him to talk, to convince you to put you in the discernment on this important subject.
(as Dorine)
